Right Filipino Partner

The Right Filipino Partner
This is THE most often discussed and talked about topic when it comes to moving\retiring in the Philippines. I was naive or better put ignorant about this when I came. Let me put it bluntly this way. Not all, but many Filipino girls are fishing. They are at the lake with their line in the water trying to catch the “golden” fish. Catching the golden fish is a life changer. Not only for the Filipino girl but in most cases her family too. A big life changer. The games and the scams are many. Being a foreigner here is like having a tattoo on your forehead, “I’m rich, take advantage of me”.
Here is my experience. Early on I met a girl on the net that lived 90km away from Cagayan de oro. She was poor, had 6 brothers and sisters and a mother and father, all very poor people. She was beautiful and sexy, using that to change her life and that of her family. I can not really blame her, she was using what she had to better herself and family. She was fishing and landed a golden fish. I learned later that she worked all day in the local market earning 50-100 pesos and then spending the evening at the Internet fishing. I wanted to meet and marry a Filipino girl. After spending 150,000p for animals, tuition and help for her family, time drew near for us to leave to for the USA. Then her father wanted 5,000p sent to him a month. She asked that I pay a 30,000p debt of her father. Finally, she ask if she could have her work when we went to the States. I asked why, there was no need. She told me it was to support her family. That is when it finally came to me, marrying her would be like marrying the whole family. She could not leave them poor and I could not blame her, it just would not work.
Reading about someone who was scammed and had to move back to their home Country is sad. Don’t let it happen to you.
There are many signs to watch for. Asking for money or needing money is a big one. There are others. Get on some Groups or Forums and ask questions. The more you know and learn, the better your life will be here. Feel free to e-mail me at hughes3864@yahoo.com
Best wishes
Brad Hughes
Cagayan de oro

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